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Mouseplanet.com’s Parent Panel offered various views and
opinions about keeping kids safe at Walt Disney World, and while on vacation in
general, in light of some recent incidents involving children at both the
Resorts and on a Disney ship—click here if you want to read their discussion. The Mouseplanet discussion continued with the
husband and I strategizing about how to balance safety and still promote the
boy’s confidence and independence. Oh,
what a fine line we parents walk; almost
like a gangplank!
Let me begin with a bit of a parent brag about our ten year
old’s independence (I have no idea where it comes from –insert eye rolling
here). Two recent examples: last week-end, I was working the concession
stand as a volunteer at a local theater event.
The boy came too as he wanted to see the show. I have him money for his ticket. He purchased his ticket, held onto it until
the theater opened, found his own seat (not the front row, but middle of the
theater), and proceeded to watch the show.
I found him about 15 minutes after the show started and he did not want
me to sit with him. He was enjoying the
show on his own. I returned to the
concession stand at intermission and then back to the theater when the money
had been counted, only to be informed again, that he wanted to sit by
himself. Got it! I could have dropped him off with ticket
money and he would have been fine! Then
last night, he was invited to a birthday party held at a local bowling
alley. We pulled up in the car and he
was ready to jump out and head in with a “see you later.” I was several steps behind as I wanted to
make contact with the parents and see if they needed anything. Nope, he was good and I was dismissed. Him not needing us is a good sign, I know,
but each time there is a little heart twinge just the same. I guess all those twinges now will make it
easier when he leaves with the car, leaves for college, etc.
So, how do we balance the boy’s confidence and independence at
the most magical place on earth that he is very familiar with and still keep
him safe?
The Mouseplanet parent panel had a theme in it’s responses
about swimming and that was not swimming alone.
Well, we would agree in most cases and we are sure that works well when
there are siblings. We have a singleton;
a singleton who knows how to swim. I
remember when were in Moab, Utah, on our Adventures by Disney tour and the boy
took off to the pool with us a few steps behind, and he jumped in to the
amazement, concern, and worry of some of our traveling group already at the
pool. They looked to us as how to
respond and we were just fine and so was the boy. They were relieved when they knew he could
swim. Now, we don’t send him to the
Disney resort pool by himself, but we may not be swimming right beside him
either. Is he within eye sight and ear
shot? Yes.
Now, at the parks, he has been gradually gaining more
independence, riding some rides by himself, while we ride too in another
vehicle or seat. If he asked to go by
himself on say, Magic Carpets of Aladdin, we would most likely say yes and wait
for him at the exit and only if it meant following Disney’s ride rules and
restrictions. When we go into a shop, I
know he will stay nearby and we exit the shop together. I am comfortable with him going to the
restroom by himself while in a restaurant or when we take a bathroom break at
the parks, having a designated meeting space of course. And, I’m certain that tether of independence
will continue to be stretched with each of our trips as he grows older.
Some other general things we do to keep him safe include:
- A label on the inside of his shirt in the back with my cell phone number. When is ready to have his own phone, this will go away I suspect.
- Matching shirts—they really do come in handy.
- The boy knows how to identify Cast Members and is comfortable asking them for help.
- Designated meeting spot in case we become separated.
- The husband and I each have our phones just in case. But honey, I can’t answer it when my hands are full carrying a tray of food. Okay?
- Familiarity with the parks, resort, etc. are very helpful. When we leave Japan in EPCOT and the boy wants to go to Germany, we know he can get there on his own and we can follow.
Each family and parent has to figure out the balance for
themselves and what works for their children.
If our child was less confident, then our strategies may be
different. Oh, growing up is so hard, no
wonder Peter Pan was not going to do it.
I don’t blame him one bit!
Have your own safety strategies? Let us know by posting a comment.
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